By: Britney Glover
When I think of first dates, in my opinion, they can either go really well or really awkward in a blink of an eye.
A first date with someone you know has the potential to go well because a comfort level has already been established. A first date with a stranger can go well but also has the potential to really suck and be extremely awkward because this person is as new to you as a foreign language. I mean think about it. If you have history with someone and you decide to go on a date with him/her, it’s going to be a lot easier to bond with the other person than with a complete stranger. And that’s simply because with the person you have history with, you have more than likely established a friendship. And when a friendship is established, it sets the foundation of the whole date and allows the atmosphere to become more relaxed. At that point, both parties are able to enjoy each other’s company, and slightly let their guards down enough to allow a conversation to take place. With a person you know, you will most likely have similarities between the two of you, which could also make the date more engaging. This would basically be the 50 percent chance you lucked up and found bae.
However, there ‘s also that other 50 percent chance of the date being completely awkward and finding out 10 minutes in, you ran out of luck and ended up with a duck. There’s reasons for this though. One of the reasons being the most obvious, which is that you simply don’t know the other person at all. You have no idea what to expect. You don’t know what the other person likes. You feel as comfortable opening up to the other person as you do a substitute teacher. How much information would you really divulge to a complete stranger anyway?
Then comes the question of whether or not you should be too forward or not? I mean you don’t want to share too much to the point of having your date looking for the nearest exit. Any details about your bodily fluids should be kept on ice until at least the second date. But you also don’t want to share too little and make your date think you’re uninterested, because that would be a tragedy. You have to find the balance and figure out what works for the both of you.
But the reality is, nowadays you might not always go on a first date with someone you know. In this day and age, we have so many dating apps, such as Tinder, Christian Mingle, and Black People Meet to name a few, the likelihood of you going out with someone you have no existing history with has skyrocketed. And now, more people are going out and trying new things to see where they lead to.
All in all, there is no perfect formula on how to make your first date go well. It’s always going to be a 50/50 chance that it goes well or goes completely left. But as long as you’re being yourself, allowing yourself to be open, and have a optimistic attitude, things should go well.