By: Zach Fulwood
So you think you’ve found the one, huh? You’ve finally found someone who understands who you really are both inside and out. You’ve never felt the way he/she has made you feel. You’re so in love and there’s nothing anybody can do to make you leave your bae. It almost feels like a dream, right? Welp, that’s because it is a dream. If you’ve spent less than a year in this relationship and these butterflies are still running rampant in your stomach, you fell victim to the honeymoon phase.
If you’re not aware of what the honeymoon phase is, allow me to reveal a little reality to you. The honeymoon phase is simply the time in the beginning of a relationship where everything just seems right and your compatibility with your partner is at an all-time high. The problem is, that time doesn’t last forever and more likely than not, the reality of the relationship is much worse than the fantasy you started with. Now understand that just because you may have entered into the honeymoon phase, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed to fail. It just means that you fell in love with a lie.
Of course we all know that most of those early dates are pretty much the best it’ll ever be. During those first few weeks and months, people are spending on each other with no regards to next month’s rent being due. People are also super excited to spend time with each other as much as possible and chivalry is at a level you didn’t even know existed. Think back to how you acted when you first got hired at your job to how your acting now if you don’t know what I’m talking about.
Things couldn’t be better at the beginning of a relationship but as I said, nothing lasts forever. Pretty soon, those late night phone calls turn into texts. Those romantic authentic roses you would get every Friday eventually turn into an occasional daisy when you go for a walk. Those fancy suit and dress wearing dinner dates at expensive restaurants eventually turn into hoodie and sweatpants wearing Royal Farms chicken dates. The list goes on but the point is, things only go down from the beginning.
On the surface, it would seem that out of the blue, your partner has switched up on you but in reality, you’re just being introduced to the real person. Think about all the lies you told during your job interview to get the job. Why wouldn’t I lie or embellish certain characteristics about myself if it meant that I had a better chance at closing the deal with a woman I wanted to date?
Truth is, there’s a lot of fun associated with the honeymoon phase. For a limited amount of time, you’re essentially living out your fantasy with the man/woman of your dreams. Sure, the phase just like your relationship might not last but things could be worse. Take my advice and just live in the moment while the moment lasts.