By: Zach Fulwood
Have you ever watched a movie and marveled at the acting job that was done and wondered to yourself how the actors were able to pull of playing their roles so perfectly? Have you ever thought that you could never have what it takes to become a great actor? Well, I have some good news and some bad news for you. The good news is, you do have what it takes to become a great actor because you’ve been pretending all of your life and people have believed you. The bad news is, you’ve been doing a lot of free work over the years and all you’ve got to show for it is an unhealthy load of emotional baggage. In other words, frontin’ has helped everyone but you.
Life is hard. Don’t ever let anyone tell you different. People get cancer for no reason. Tow companies steal your car at night and then hold it for ransom and won’t take anything but cash in return. The government takes money that they didn’t help you earn out of your check every week. I mean, a legitimate argument can be made that you are worth more to the economy dead than you are alive. While we understand that life is inherently hard, our decision making can very easily make life harder for us than it needs to be.
Too many times in life, we find ourselves putting on a show for people that didn’t ask for it. We feel that either because of traditional gender roles or because of our own insecurities, we have to be devoid of vulnerability. I’ve never understood the stigma behind being vulnerable because we realistically, can’t get through life without tapping into it at some point. Let me put it to you this way, people who aren’t capable of being vulnerable end up as sociopathic serial killers. I could be wrong but, I think the stigma behind being a sociopath is much worse than the stigma of being vulnerable from time to time.
For whatever reason, we often hide our emotions and in the process, end up doing more harm to ourselves than good. Think of it like this, each time you withhold your emotions, the greater the need becomes to express those emotions. Why force yourself into being emotionally constipated and hinder your own personal growth when you could just as easily release and deal with the situation then and there? Everyone loves to claim how real they are but can’t even muster up the courage to be real with themselves.
Simply put, we hide our emotions from the world for reasons that don’t make sense. Everyone else in the room may not share your emotions at that particular moment but it’s not as if they can’t relate to having never felt that way before. Instead of pretending like something doesn’t bother you, why not just be honest with yourself and those around you? There’s a difference between being the happiest person in the room and simply being the least unhappy person in the room. Which one are you?